Welcome, 2011!

Wow. 2011 already.

I honestly feel like this past year has flown by. We’ve had some hard times and some great, but overall, I feel like 2010 was a hard, hard year.

But I don’t want to be someone who looks back and groans, shaking their head.

I want to be someone who looks to the future with their head held high and a smile on their face.

Here’s to 2011 – let’s hope it doesn’t suck!

I’m not really one for resolutions. In fact, I don’t have a terribly good track record for sticking to them, so I won’t make any of those. However, I do have a few goals that I’d like to flesh out here, hopefully meaning that I can look at them and assess how I’m doing throughout the year.

  1. Use as few chemicals as possible – both on my body and in my house. I got turned on to spotless by a friend and I love it! In fact, this website revolutionized my no-poo project and I’m back to fully no-poo. Yay! As a token of good faith, I used the last of my dishwasher soap on December 30th and ran my first load of chemical-free dishwashing this morning – they’re already put away and are squeaky clean :) I’m planning that when I run out of cleaning products, I’ll begin making what I need and I won’t buy more. That way, it won’t be in the house.
  2. Work toward becoming the kind of parent I know my kids need – this means more listening, more partnering, and more working on myself. I’ve had an introductory appointment with a counselor and I’m hoping that will help me move forward. I’m going to purchase and read Families Where Grace is in Place (Jeff VanVonderen), going to give Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves (Naomi Aldort) another read, and Brad and I are going to take at least one course in Non-Violent Communication.
  3. Deepen my faith – in a way that is authentically following Jesus. I’m hoping to talk to some people who are interested in the simple church movement and get my family involved in Christ’s body again.
  4. Re-discover what brings me joy – this is, I think, going to be the most difficult goal. Somewhere in the past few years, I’ve lost myself. In becoming a mother twice in such a short period of time, I’ve forgotten who I am and what I find fulfilling. Add to that the loss of the outward expression of my faith, the difficult times had within our immediate families, more job responsibility on Brad, and a head-strong toddler, and most days I’m not sure what end is up!

Four goals. I think I can do it. Cheer me on, peeps!

10 comments »

  1. Brandy says:

    You can do it Kim.

    Book marked spotless.

    May give some of their ideas a try!

  2. NicoleW says:

    I’m cheering you on! What do you use for dishwashing now? I’m really interested!

  3. kim says:

    Brandy, her site has a TONNE of great info!!

    Nicole, I’m using the method detailed on her site – 2 tsp baking soda sprinkled over the racks and a 50/50 mixture of lemon juice/vinegar in the soap thinger. It’s worked great both times I’ve done it!

  4. Nadine says:

    Always cheering you on!

    I’m reading Naomi Aldort now and it’s really cracking me open – head-wise & heart-wise. I think I figured out my rage – it’s actually deep sadness over feeling completely inadequate and not good enough – I learned that rage was the only acceptable way to express sadness from a woman obsessed with the Women’s Liberation Movement in the 70’s (thanks Mom). Interestingly, when I approached my Mom about my sadness about witnessing her beat my brother with a wooden spoon, (in the wake of witness the incident at Sears) she said that I should ‘be strong for my boys’ who ‘wouldn’t understand my emotions’ and that I should also ‘get some counselling for my emotional roller-coaster’. Thanks again Mom, she’s always so appropriate and supportive. God, I hope I can do better than that, at least, for my kids. Naomi Aldort is amazing. After you read it again, I think I’ll need to read it at least every year.

    I’m totally hearing you on the trying to go toxic-free, but my pet-thingy for this year is to try to get rid of buying any food in packaging that goes into the garbage. I really hate that. That and putting garbage in plastic bags for pick-up. I sometimes wonder if the most toxic thing in my house is my attitude, or possibly my mother.

    The ‘joy’ thing is a tough one – I agree with you on that one. I’m looking forward to finishing my sweater (just sewing up the sleeves now). I’m going to try to go to a drum circle a couple of times a month, and take up hula-hooping. I got one for Christmas and it’s fun – you can take it for a ‘spin’ if you like. Mostly, I want to try to have more fun in everything I do – and take Nate outside more. Maybe go swimming to the Rec centre once a week with the kids (or without!) Yoga would likely help me too.

    The biggest thing is, I don’t want to lose my cool with my kids any more, ever again. I want to never yell again, unless someone is in mortal danger.

  5. Gina Taylor says:

    Kim, thanks for being so open on your blog. I just read your Facebook update and learned of the most recent challenge facing your family. Believe it or not, but I think about you a lot. I enjoyed getting to know you and Brad in our Discipleship classes way back when and I resolved to myself at the new year to drop in and see you. I retired from working full time last year and am home every Monday, Wednesday and Friday. If you need a break from the kids or just want a change in scenery you are more than welcome at my house any time. Since I am now a grandmother of four, I have become skilled at infant and toddler care and will be more than happy to look after your kids any time you need a break. Here is my cell number, please call me 905-xxx-xxxx.
    Gina

    (Gina, I edited this just to remove your cell number after I copied it.)

  6. Tammy says:

    The site has too much info, that’s the problem!

    I’d love to read some posts from you about what you actually use or what you think works best!

  7. Rachel says:

    Hey Kim,
    Like Gina, thinking of you guys has brought me to your blog. And that’s a great thing! You’re so inspiring!
    I’m really curious what you use for the dishwasher. If it’s the bicarb/salt mix from the spotless link, where do you buy bicarb??

  8. kim says:

    Hey Rach! Thanks for the thoughts :)

    Yeah, I use the one from that website .. bicarb is just baking soda! So 2 tsps baking soda over the racks, and half lemon juice, half vinegar in the soap dish and some salt. Voila!

  9. graham says:

    Hey Kim, you guys are welcome to come to our small group. It’s on Ephesians – which is pretty much Simple Church 101. It’s Thursday nights, and might be really encouraging as you reach for your goals.
    g&e

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