Comments on: Sleep .. or lack thereof. http://kblog.theschellingerhoudts.com/2010/03/12/sleep-or-lack-thereof/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 14:41:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: kim http://kblog.theschellingerhoudts.com/2010/03/12/sleep-or-lack-thereof/#comment-1688 kim Mon, 15 Mar 2010 22:38:45 +0000 http://kblog.theschellingerhoudts.com/?p=1313#comment-1688 Liz, I can completely understand that! It seems like adjusting to the second is more about adjusting to the role of being mother of ANOTHER rather than 'mother' in general. You have to completely shift your relationship to your first and that's definitely hard. I think with Gwen I was a bit angry about my loss of self. This time, I've been more sad about my shift in relationship with Gwen. Liz, I can completely understand that! It seems like adjusting to the second is more about adjusting to the role of being mother of ANOTHER rather than ‘mother’ in general. You have to completely shift your relationship to your first and that’s definitely hard. I think with Gwen I was a bit angry about my loss of self. This time, I’ve been more sad about my shift in relationship with Gwen.

]]> By: Liz http://kblog.theschellingerhoudts.com/2010/03/12/sleep-or-lack-thereof/#comment-1687 Liz Mon, 15 Mar 2010 22:16:32 +0000 http://kblog.theschellingerhoudts.com/?p=1313#comment-1687 It's so interesting, Kim. I grieved the loss of selfhood much more after my second; or, maybe, I am had a little more trouble this time with the coming up for air part. I think it is partly that I had a really great sense of myself even in proximity to Fiona and when Simone came along to temporarily obliterate that, I was unable to properly put myself back together. I'm not sure what it means. I feel like I've grown in different ways with both daughter. In necessary ways. It’s so interesting, Kim. I grieved the loss of selfhood much more after my second; or, maybe, I am had a little more trouble this time with the coming up for air part. I think it is partly that I had a really great sense of myself even in proximity to Fiona and when Simone came along to temporarily obliterate that, I was unable to properly put myself back together. I’m not sure what it means. I feel like I’ve grown in different ways with both daughter. In necessary ways.

]]> By: Nadine http://kblog.theschellingerhoudts.com/2010/03/12/sleep-or-lack-thereof/#comment-1682 Nadine Sun, 14 Mar 2010 14:59:50 +0000 http://kblog.theschellingerhoudts.com/?p=1313#comment-1682 Wow. That's dead on! Wow. That’s dead on!

]]> By: Brandy http://kblog.theschellingerhoudts.com/2010/03/12/sleep-or-lack-thereof/#comment-1676 Brandy Thu, 11 Mar 2010 23:28:17 +0000 http://kblog.theschellingerhoudts.com/?p=1313#comment-1676 I like your emphasis. It's very true. I can be in the same room with Isabel but I don't have to be the one entertaining her. I just keep an eye/ear out for trouble. I think I will be in the same boat of early bedtime with new little one. We shall see which side of sleep pendulum he falls on! I like your emphasis. It’s very true.

I can be in the same room with Isabel but I don’t have to be the one entertaining her. I just keep an eye/ear out for trouble.

I think I will be in the same boat of early bedtime with new little one. We shall see which side of sleep pendulum he falls on!

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